Need a little help getting even with someone
at school that has done
you wrong? Maybe an oldie but a goodie revenge technique is just what you
need to help you get even and regain your stature as an important person.
You should know: RG has a great amount of respect for
teachers. He will not advise any type of revenge against a teacher.
However, if you feel your teacher is treating you unfairly please
follow all available legal means to address the situation. Begin by
talking with your parents. Move on to the principal, the school
board and write letters to the editor of the local newspapers.
Dear
RG,
My name's Sandra, and I've been wronged. I find that your website is
sincerely a godsend. And I was inspired to confide in you for help.
I'm a very computer literate person, and spend a good deal of time
on the net. Sadly I'm still in high school, but don't think I'm one
of those sad teens that only contact you to harm their exes.
No, my case is very different, and literally boils my blood every
day. I'd like to state that I am very good with grudges. If I feel
that a person is truly sorry and wishes to be forgiven, I will
forgive them. Yet, a friend of mine, from a high school I attended
last year, hurt me... and never even mentioned asking for
forgiveness from me.
I was brought up in a family that follows law and justice, and I'm
very very against stealing. There's one case, last year, that
someone (I'll call her Molly) in a "clique" that I have friends in,
asked to borrow a book of mine. The book was the fourth in a series,
and Molly never gave it back. Molly promised over and over that she
had given it to me, and other times would say that she didn't even
borrow it. Soon, a good friend of mine (still a good friend)
replaced the book for her, and I decided to chill. I felt that it
was my fault that I let a scumbag like Molly borrow anything of
mine. The people in that "clique" saw, how angry and hurt I was that
I was betrayed by a potential friend. Even the girl (I'll call her
Richele) in question. (I would estimate a month and a half) After
that incident, Richele decided to be redundant. Richele was a
moderate friend, that I didn't mind hanging around with. Nor loaning
something to her, especially after being practically begged to let
her borrow it.
Again I was at fault for being trustful of someone I thought was a
friend. I was embarrassed by her, I stood up for her, I stayed on
her side of fights she got into, she was the first friend I made
when I had to go to that high school. And she stole from me.
It's my fault for trusting her, but it isn't my fault for her
actions. And I want revenge.
Not only has she stolen one of my personal belongings, but she is
also dating that good friend I mentioned earlier. That good friend I
have feelings for, and I would not say I loved this friend, but I
don't want that friend to get hurt like I did, along with other
friends.
I feel I am the only one that knows that Richele can not be trusted,
only because last year I was the new kid, and my friends have been
friends with Richele longer than I have.
I've been hit repeatedly, not only with jealousy of Richele for
still being in contact with my friends, but also because she gains
their trust so much more than I do.
What in this world can I possibly do to wreak revenge upon Richele?
Come damnation or satisfaction. I ask you to help me end my anger
and hurt, Revenge Guy.
Thank you for at least listening.
Sandra
Hi
Sandra,
Sadly we are going to run up against these types of people all our
lives. Knowing that we are better people that they is somewhat a
reward, but not always enough.
I do not want you to stoop to these peoples level, only because, by
the tone of your letter, you are far superior that these trivial
bits of flesh.
Revenge for you is to write a letter of how you’ve been wronged,
exactly, all thoughts and feelings. And you’re going to hide that
letter, showing it to no one at all, ever.
Then you will discuss the contents only of the letter to the friend
you have feelings for. Putting all this behind you, and exposing
her, will be your revenge.
Follow my advice and have a better life. And don't worry so much
about the affairs of others. It's hard to not be a caring and
involved person but you have top let people make their own mistakes
too.
There is so much more to live after school!
Dear
RG,
I am in 11th grader in private school. The VP of the student
council, and involved with a military cadet program (MCP).
I am a generally
good guy.
There was a mission
with this MCP and I got home at about 4 am on a Thursday night. On
Friday I went in to school to take a math test, and then left having
only 2 hours of sleep the night before. I find out the teacher has
deducted a point off my grade and given me two hours of detention
for having an "unexcused" absence.
There have been
many others who just skipped her class and there has been no point
deduction or detentions to them. She is the favorite teacher of many
people, and thinks she runs everything.
I would like to
nock her down a peg a expose her for blatantly playing favorites. I
already went to the dean and he just pushed me aside. Please Help!
Thanks in advance,
Bruce
Hi
Bruce,
Write everything down including names and places and send the letter
to your parents.
Send a copy to the dean, registered mail, so he knows you mean
business.
Just because you’re in 11th grade doesn’t mean you can be pushed
around.
And send a copy to the teacher too.
Don’t be pushed around!
Of course, school does end in a couple of years. And teachers can be
unfair. You might want to take this as a lesson in hard knocks… but
I’d definitely send the letter to your parents. They spend good
money for your education and well-bring. If that is threatened they
should act accordingly.
Dear
RG,
I'm seek advise about revenge.
I'm enrolled in an
university level educational program that requires a lot of time,
focus, and concentration. I have been in this program for about a
year now, and I have a year left to complete.
My main problems
are with my classmates. From day one I was chosen to be the odd man
out so to speak. I have been gossiped about, lied to, teased,
ostracized, threatened, and had people take pictures of me without
my consent to try to humiliate me.
This all had hit
it's peek when I was publically harassed and cursed out by one
desperate girl seeking to gain popularity. I filed a report with my
department and the university about the girl's behavior in class
(which an instructor was witnessed to), but no one has been willing
to do anything. Not to mention that people who I was on a friendly
basis with before the incident have demonized me for reporting the
girl.
It's like I'm
dealing with Junior high schoolers and no amount of 'just ignoring
them' has managed to get these people to let me be and do my school
work so I can go on and make something of myself.
Granted, I do have
friends who support me, and I'm not depending on these jerks for
self esteem, but I do have to go to classes with these people and
there is no way out of it. It's gotten to the point where it is
scary to go to class knowing that no one is going to control these
people. Is this a good case for revenge, or is there some other way
to deal with these immature losers?
Thanks R.G
Hi,
Dealing with immaturity, at any age, is one of life’s little curses.
This doesn’t strike everyone but it does cause grief for those
unlucky enough to be stung.
Work as hard as you can and if there is any justice in the world,
you will become one of their bosses!
As far as immediate revenge I’d fight back, fire with fire.
Not exactly stopping to their level, but maybe see where you can
turn the tables without giving them anything to report on you.
They take pictures, you take pictures. They ask stupid questions to
you, loudly reply “Why would you ask that?”
It’s your embarrassment they seek and when you retaliate by becoming
loud and demanding it’s likely these weasels will simply, slowly,
slink away to the rock they crawled out from under.
Live well!
Dear
RG,
We're restaging the play "Miss Saigon" and I have this cast member
that is, for me, a total bitch and I'd love to see her get run over
by a large truck.
Anyway, I'm
directing the play and basically provide everyone with their scripts
and the CDs. I lose at least 3 hours of sleep every night just to
think of the next scene and make the choreographies.
Anyways, at this
one practice there's a girl that says "she's like "I'm too tired to
practice," and I have sensed her hostility towards me since then.
She talks behind my back as if she's all that. She's a total slut
and dresses like one too.
The part that pissed me off was when I dismissed all the girls a
little early because they did good in the practice she was like: "we
shouldn't have come here then! f---er!" It really ticked me off that
during the dress rehearsal. I called her a retarded bitch with a
blue v--ina in front of a teacher, and I loved it.
But I still wanna get back at her. Something verbal, I prefer and
humiliating, in front of the class, something like that.
Thanks revenge guy. :D
Seriously Dude,
You’re going to run into these types of people all the time. Revenge
isn’t the answer for everyone of these types of jerks. But this one
is special so here goes:
Your revenge will be letting her ruin this production for everybody.
And the next time she acts up at practice, say this:
“You know, you’ve really tried to get under my skin but I want to
keep my cool. If this show isn’t that important to you, drop out. If
it is then you should be putting in the same effort that everyone
else does.”
Be bigger than her,
girls like that get their true rewards soon enough. School doesn’t
last forever and she will not be prepared for the real world and
life if that's her type of attitude.
Then I’d find a way
to get her booted out of the production.
And if she stays in as far as show time, take a minute before the
first scene starts and undo all the stitching in her costume.
Hi RG,
I am a student at Xxxxxxx Middle School and this is my final year. One of
my teachers has made my whole middle school career hell, and she as turned
all of the Xxxxxxx staff against me. It a very long story why they hate me
so much. I have been brave enough to take revenge, I've always kept a
clean record. I wanted you to suggest a prank or some sort of revenge the
will get them or one of them good. But, I need a prank that can't lead to
me, so I or my friends (which will help) get in trouble.
Thanks,
J
In this case, success is the best revenge and honesty is the only answer.
If the teacher is so bad, she shouldn't be teaching. Document your
problems with her and formally present them to the school board. Discuss
this with your parents because you'll need their help.
hi my name is ryan and
I'm only at school in year 8 and I always get picked
on for anything all the time and I get paper balls thrown at me and I
actually got bashed by someone and the kids in my class always tease me
about that but I can't think of a way to get them back so can you please
help me I really need you to please.
thankyou. ryan in australia
Hi Ryan,
Where I live bullying is against the law. I have to go over the obvious
things here so bear with me:
Have you spoken with your parents and teachers about this? They should be
made aware of what is going on, before you do anything to get back at
these kids.
As it happens so often, it probably isn't one kid, usually 2 or 3 that
find it easier to pick on one kid, then a few more that laugh as it
occurs, encouraging the bad ones.
So, first, be sure that your parents and teachers know what's going on.
Then you have to understand that these kids are usually insecure about
themselves and their place in the world, so to build themselves up they
knock someone else down. They don't know the harm they are doing or the
hurt feelings that are truly involved, they think it's a big joke and
don't take the victim's (you) feelings into account.
That being said, revenge of a violent type isn't warranted here, it's of
no use to stoop to their level. Fighting fire with fire won't work.
What will work is getting a crowd of your own on your side, and this is
done through the things you are capable of doing. For this type of
revenge, showing yourself to actually be a popular guy, is the best
revenge possible.
I suggest you go to your local library, maybe even the school library, and
get a book on learning magic tricks. Then learn a couple of the easier
ones, like the magic rings trick, and practice it until you can amaze your
parents with it. You may have to buy some magic supplies, check the book
you've gotten to see what you'll need.
Then, once you know the trick and can perform it well, take it to school
with you and amaze the cutest girl in class with it. Girls like to be
amazed with magic and guys like other guys that the prettiest girl likes,
it's the way of growing up and setting relationships!
So, by creating your own popularity you'll get your revenge and these
bullies will want to hang around you, instead of pick on you.
Ryan, you can do this.
Another place to check out is Robrob8.com, that site has lots of computer
pranks, harmless, but fun. Talk with him, get your picture on the front
page, that'll boost your popularity too! (With your parents permission, of
course!)
Feel free to share this email with your parents, talk about it and then
get going!
Ryan, keep in touch, I want to know how things turn out for you.
I'm in high school and
I'm kind of tiny for my age but all of my
friends are huge.
Today this kid came up to me that is younger then
me by 2 yrs and from two feet away he threw an apple at my face n my
friends want to fight him but want to do something better. Do you
have any suggestions?
Hi,
Bullies are always trouble and getting revenge can be dangerous in
that you might escalate the threats and fighting.
But he does need to be taken down a step or two for coming at you
like that.
This is what you do:
Get a few dollars together and head over to the closest craft store.
Buy yourself about 20 of those buttons that you can make yourself.
You know, the kind that have the plastic cover and the pin on the
back to attach to your shirt. (If you need to see what I mean by
button, follow this link:
http://www.cafepress.com/endthestrike.14191034 ). On each button
write "I am a member of the 'Better than XXX' club" where XXX is
this kid's name. Pass the buttons out to all of your friends to wear.
The embarrassment will scare this punk away for good.
Hey
RG,
I need some revenge and lots of it this guy has been bulling me for
years and i cant do anything because of his brothers they're all in
their twenty's and would kick the shite out of any body who look
funny at the guy so I need to do something that cant really be
traced back to me please please please give me some idea of what to
do
from R
Hi R,
All I'd do is watch the guy for places that he hangs out at, then
anonymously call the store and say this guy has been stealing from them.
That'll get him some attention.
Hi
Revenge Guy,
There are these three guys at my school and they are complete pricks
to me. They tell everyone that I'm gay, given me a harsh nickname
that I don't want to mention because it upsets me.
As well as this they take the mess out
of my looks and weight. They have stolen all of my friends (except
for a small few who have also been ridiculed) who now do the same
thing and I'm now alone and upset.
This has been going on for two years
now and it even resulted in me thinking about taking my own life. I
request your aid to get the bastards back (hopefully with something
that will split them all up) and make them feel as bad as I do.
Thank you,
Guy in need
Hi
Guy,
Handling pricks and bullies at school isn't always easy. Usually
they know who's after them; they have a 'gang mentality' that makes
then less fearful together than apart.
There are steps to handle them though, both inside and outside of
school. The key is not getting caught.
1. Write down all the things the bully(s) has done to you, including
dates and times. Talk to your parents about the abuse you're dealing
with at school. Let them know every step of the way the legal and
proper things you are doing.
2. Once you have a few incidents written down, go to the school
principal and get some help. If there is no help through the
principal, go to the police with your journal of abuse. Have
criminal charges made, if possible.
3. Contact local newspapers about harassment at your school. Write
an article about it yourself detailing the abuse and send it in as a
letter to the editor to your local newspaper.
4. If you have a camera (phone), take pictures of bruises, thrown
books, damaged property, whatever is done to you, post them on a
blog or website.
On your own, or with friends that won't rat you out, your revenge
starts:
Carefully tail the jerks when they go out places. Shopping is good.
When they are in a store, go to security and report them for shop
lifting. That'll keep them busy.
Create posters for 'Moving sales", 'Yard sales' and such. Include
directions for the bullies house, with his/her name on it. That will
get the bully's parents involved but you'll have some early morning
revenge.
Most of all, I'd recommend going the legal route not the revenge
route. Despite the harassment you get at school, keep in mind that
school does end and you have the rest of your working life to deal
with the jerks that were after you.
